There is this girl I have been talking to for a time. I like her, and we also share some common ground. Recently she told how she is struggling very much with anxiety.
She’s worried people dislike her, worried about people only pretending to be her friend, people slowly losing interest. She is without exaggeration suicidal about it. More over I overheard her saying she hates people who are only interest in sex.
And here is the damned kicker, I am only interest in having sex with her. Normally when people talk about how they dislike people only interested in sex, I take that as my cue to leave. It’s totally fine they feel this way, but it also means we’re not compatible. However seeing how this girl is damn near suicidal about people pretending to like her, I’m not sure what to do.
If she’s not into one night stands that’s fine but that does mean I’m walking (I’m also not interested in any friendship). But I don’t want her to kill herself over it either.
Sorry for butting in, but you wait “until things get serious” to tell people you’re into them just for the sex? I really want to give you the benefit of doubt because you’ve been respectful and articulate so far, but do you honestly not see the problem here? Why not just use Tinder for hookups?
It’s as Jax put it. I didn’t phrase it very clearly. I meant I usually tell them I don’t want anything serious when I feel like they show romantic/sexual interest in me.
Can you have a guess?
Aah I saw their comment and your reply to them. That makes sense, sorry for the misunderstanding.
I think that this may be a miscommunication, I think that what they mean by ‘get serious’ is that the relationship has progressed to the point where having sex is all but guaranteed (which, let’s be real - that can happen pretty fucking fast).
At least that’s how I’m reading it.
Thank you, I saw your exchange and now I understand what was meant.