So I am seeing this wholesome woman (+30 F) with silk-smooth skin, blonde hair and no excess fat whatsoever. And she is smarter then I can comprehend.
She would turn my head around once aware I wrote this post. Anyhow, I want to help her gain more confidence.
So, her skin on the lower legs is thin such that you can see her veins. She is ashamed for her blue Ones.
She told me her struggle. She shows me her veins. I feel for her awareness.
She got great legs. But she wears these legging-thingys even it is uncomfortably warm. I want her to feel the cold wind on a hill when we get around some place.
I am assuring her that this ain’t an issue for anyone. Meanwhile drawing them with my finger, wrongly on purpose.
Anyhow; I am trying to make her feel confident enough so that she doesn’t give af and just wear clothes appropriate for the trip & the weather.
Anyone got any advice for me or tips for her?
Shower her with constant compliments. Whenever you look at her and see how beautiful she is, tell her right then. The more you do it, the easier it gets. If you feel like you are just saying the same thing over and over, find more things to compliment.
Beyond that, just accept her how she is. In order to confront a deeply set fear like this, you have to first feel really safe. You can’t force her to confront her fears, and don’t expect her to.
Source: my fiancée has a similar insecurity, and i have made her happy-cry at least once a week for our entire relationship.
Thanks, buddy!