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Cake day: July 5th, 2023

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  • Rules and leaders don’t have to be harmful or coercive though. Even very egalitarian communities need norms. Hell even an anarchosyndicalist commune will have some shared set of expectations of its members.

    Like you said, cults are about control. I have a hard time seeing much of a parallel between the necessary structure and norms of a community or club, and the coercive nature of a cult.






  • There is probably little practical help you can give, but don’t underestimate the importance and impact of social and emotional support.

    When someone is in such a shitty situation, just knowing that there are people who care makes a huge difference. So just be a good friend. Listen and empathise when they need to talk about shit. Give them a laugh when they need cheering up or distraction from the bullshit.


  • Honestly I think the vast majority of people on the left would agree with most of what you said. A lot of the corporate rainbow flag waving is pretty performative and cringe.

    The whole pronoun thing is pretty simple really, just don’t say “he” to someone who says “I’m a she”. That’s really all there is to it. 99% of the the time you can tell whether someone is a he or a she. Sometimes it’s not obvious, or you might get it wrong. As long as the other person can say “hey I’m a he actually” and you respond with “Oh my bad bro”, then you are all good.

    I know there are some people out there who try to make the pronoun thing into some huge deal but that’s really all it is. I know plenty of trans people and non-binary people and they’re all chill, they just don’t want to be called by the wrong thing. And honestly, neither do I!