when I think of the word “fetish” I’m thinking about people who are into feet, bdsm, femdom, cuckolding or MDLB. Not someone who just finds X ethnicity more attractive on average than any other ethnicity. Nobody for example is going to say to a white man that he has a white girl fetish simply because he finds white women more attractive on average than any other ethnicity. Because it’s completely understandable that most people prefer to date with their own ethnicity. But the minute that white man finds a black women more attractive on average suddenly that’s fetishization. It’s completely ridiculous.

    • 姫男子@lemmy.caOP
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      Well I’m Latino so I only date Latinas simply because it’s way easier for me to get along with them due to me and her sharing the same culture, the same language, the same values.

      I can’t date white women, black women, Indian women and east Asian because they all have different cultures, speak different languages and have different values than me.

      • “Can’t”? Lots of people do. Although she was white, I lived with a German girl, in Germany, for two years. I barely spoke German, and she barely spoke English, when we met. And, despite what you might think, there are significant cultural differences between Americans and Germans.

        “Can’t” probably isn’t the word you’re looking for. “Don’t want to” is more accurate.

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        I would call that a strong preference. Sounds like you don’t have anything in particular about it other than convenience. I mean people are like that with religion. I only want to date my faith because otherwise there will be to many complications type thing.